I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men.

I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real.

I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter.

I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times.

Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone?

My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try.

any ideas??

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I think your fantasy is a reasonably normal one. I'm sure a lot of men have this one. However, pushing any woman into something like that would be a mistake. It's got to be something that just kinda happens due to cercumstances. Maybe at a small, well, orchestrated get-together with another man, drinking, and suggetive behavior might prime the pump. But, if she resists in any way, you should put the breaks on or risk damaging your relationship.
Good luck

Good Luck < i think several men fantasize about this , but if and when it happens im not sure most could go thru with it , theres always the fear of , What if she liked him better ? what if they hook up again by themselves ? , what if she leaves me for him ? and Im sure there are many more . I have tried to get my wife to do this a few times and most recently with a younger college guy that we met while staying at a hotel for our anniversary , he was there for a frat alumni party .. WE just couldnt go thru with it . he was willing and she was for a bit but just couldnt finish what we started .. So my advice would be take it slow dont push its liable to cause more harm then good ....

You could ask for it for your birthday, dude. Happy Birthday. Oh and welcome to RMM.

If she does go ahead with it forward me a pic and I may offer my services...
free of charge!

that would be in stark contrast to the norm of bondi paying for sex

Hey-Oh!

Well then why did your wife pay me last time? I guess I owe her a refund!!!

BAM!!!

Details bro, details

She got change back from a dollar and she still said it was a ripoff

ZING!

I don't get that part? How will that help you find a dude to bang your wife?

Maybe she'd like to try it out with a girl first.

I think he means a ''dogging'' carpark.... you know lights on stuff..... (no i have no a clue about what means what)

She probably paid you so you would leave!

Hey... she gave me change in Canadian dollars so I turned a profit... and had a good night! Whoever said she had to enjoy it?

yeah, I give her the same story

Thats the Australian way

spotted at least I think so

STEP AWAY FROM THE FANTASY!

you are giving your wife the open invitation to cheat, sure she may let you watch the first few times....but, what if she prefers another over you *
she probably never would cheat but could you trust her after that, say when she is on a nite out on the town with the girls?
just my thoughts but I have been there and done that

*what if it was someone say from... Saskatchewan who has a little penis but likes to cuddle after sex how would you compete with that

On the ball... changed American to Australian

It’s scary, to be sure. Sex is such a crapshoot, ya know? You might start out just "having fun", but lots of that ends up in marriage, huh? Some women have a powerful need to be protected and sheltered by their man and introducing another guy may make her feel cheapened, somehow less "precious" to you. Surely this doesn't describe all women and some find such stuff the spice of life, but I think any attempt to coerce — even gently — is playing with fire. I've heard too many stories of guys who did this and then it blew up in their face. Like others have said, she might find she has a taste for it and what if you find the reality wasn't the turn-on you expected? Now you've got a lady who is eager to play leapfrog and you opened Pandora's Box.

My opinion is "open marriage" is seriously tough stuff. At the very least it takes two *very* secure people who are fully committed to their relationship lasting. But love is no respecter of the ties that bind, once a heart is stirred for another, going back is near impossible. I think the very best thing you can do is sit down and ask to talk about it, and make a sincere promise to never speak of it again if she wishes. The fact that she doesn't want to talk about it any further though seems like a pretty good indicator that you are close to (or already have) hurt feelings.

My opinion is, you made your play and she said no, that pretty much ends the issue unless *she* re-opens it. Your best action might be to ask her if your effort to get her to do that has hurt her in some way, ask it honestly and with passion. Usually when a woman isn't talking about something, she wants to talk about it, just not the way YOU want to talk about it. Tread lightly my friend cause yo ass may be a hangin' over the abyss. Just my opinion though, take it as such.

Ok me and my husband have a great relationship. We both have sex with others but only with each other there. I disagree with it giving one of us an open invitation to cheat. I would never go behind my husbands back and be with another person male or female. Although I can not talk for him I am sure he would never do it also. It does take a strong relationship to pull it off. We have been married almost 8 years and I could never be without him. Besides I don't think he would leave me for another woman because he gets to have awesome women and me too. And mostly I would rather share him with another woman. It turns me on like nothing else.

Just sayin'